8 Ways To Build Up Your Confidence If It's Been Knocked

If you have been struggling with your lack of confidence and self-esteem lately, then know you are not alone. A staggering 95% of adults and children suffer from low self-esteem and confidence, this is worrisome and a lot of people blame celebrities and social media. While they don't tend to help matters with their perfect pictures they are not wholly to blame. Lack of confidence can appear at any time during your life, finding the root cause means you take back the control and are more likely to overcome it. Wanting some useful tips and tricks on how to overcome this tricky time in your life? Take a look below, hopefully, some are of use to you. 

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Talk To Someone
This may sound obvious but a lot of people bottle their feelings up inside. If you do the same then you will know how bad it can be. The problem with keeping it all bottled up can lead to the coke effect. Imagine having a coke bottle and you shake it a little each time, eventually, it will explode. This is the same when it comes to your emotions, we are not hardwired to keep things hidden and inside. Find someone impartial to talk to like a professional counselor or even a close friend or relative. Whoever you talk to, you need to make sure that they are offering a non-judgemental listening ear. 

Visit The Salon
If you feel like changing your appearance will improve your confidence then think about what you would like to change. For a lot of people, their hair makes them, if this is the case for you then a trip to the salon could do wonders for your confidence. Have you ever left the salon feeling like a brand new woman? Then you know that it can do this again, the problem you might have is if you don't like yourself currently then you won't like what you have done at the salon. This isn't always true but it can happen, you don't want to end up wasting money. 

If you aren't feeling up to a trip to the salon, venturing out into the big wide world then you could always make use of mobile hairdressers. If you want to color your hair then you will need to make sure you focus on the upkeep. For example, using a good quality shampoo. Check out the latest guide on The 18 Best Shampoos For Color Treated Hair To Try In 2022. 

Write Down Your Thoughts
Writing stuff down when you are feeling particularly vulnerable will help you to keep control over your emotions. It is a similar technique and method to the problem shared is a problem halved type of thing. Instead of sharing with a person, you are sharing with a notepad. Nobody can see this, not if you don't want them to. You can treat it like a diary, each day write down how it went and try to find something positive to write. The more positive things you write about the better you will start to feel. 

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Go Shopping
Something else that can make you feel like a million dollars is a trip to the shops. New clothes can really change how you see yourself. If you don't like the person staring back at you in the mirror then it may just be the clothes you are wearing. Body shapes and styles change over the years, so something that looked nice and suited you once upon a time may not look the same. This can be disheartening but know it has nothing to do with you or your body. Take a look around and don't be afraid to try stuff on, maybe even take a friend along for honest opinions. When you go into certain shops they may offer a personal shopper service, if you don't know what to try on or what will suit you then they can help. There is no obligation to buy anything they bring you, try it on and see how you feel. 

Get Rid Of Toxicity
One huge concern for people with low confidence levels is they attract the wrong type of people. These can be incredibly toxic people who feed off your anxieties. If your friends voice their concerns then maybe listen to them and remove any and all toxicity from your life. You may not realize it now but it will be the best thing for you to do in the long run. Then you can get back to focusing on yourself and not have anyone pulling down on your positivity. 

Practice Positivity
This one can occasionally seem like an impossible task, if not all the time. Lack of confidence comes from something, you are not born disliking things about yourself. If you constantly tell yourself that you are fat or hideous for example then this is what you will start seeing and believing. What you need to do is inject some positive describing words into your daily routine. Stand in the mirror and take a long look at yourself, then practice speaking positively to your reflection. It will seem silly at first but keep doing it and it will become second nature. You may even get to the point where you can hold your head up proud and say yes, I am me and I am beautiful. 

Avoid Comparisons
Another one that can be impossible especially if you are in a relationship is avoiding comparisons with others. If you constantly compare the way you look with others then this will have a lasting impact on your confidence and self-esteem. Once you stop doing that and accept that you will never be that other person and that other person probably isn't as perfect as you make out then you will be on your way to a happy place. 

Get Out Of The House
Finally, if you want to overcome your difficulties with your confidence then you need to ensure you don't hide away at home. This can be a false sense of security and while you may feel happier and more comfortable at home, you don't want to be. Don't settle into a routine of not leaving the house. If your friends invite you out then get your Gladrags on and have a great time. 

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